5 Often Neglected Ways to Defeat Porn.1

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Sometimes you can’t see the forest for the trees. That cliche means you can be so close to the problem that you cannot see how to solve it.  That might be true of you in your struggle in trying to stop looking at porn.

So you have tried to stop using porn what … 1000 times?  Maybe this new book, latest seminar, next program, men’s retreat or alter call will make the difference.  We all know the long list of failures that may have brought a short pause from using sex to medicate how we are feeling.  However, we are the dogs that return to their vomit.  We are the wretched men who need to freed from this body of death.  But how?????  Yes, it all begins with our relationship with Christ and being a new creation … but you start with the best of intentions and keep falling back.

Here are what I believe to be 5 things you have not included in your efforts to stop.  They are often neglected because they are hard … very hard.  They are hard because they move beyond your own efforts … which have failed you how many times?  However, they work.  They have and are working in my life and in the lives of many other men I know.

Serious problems take drastic measures.  You can fix a cut with a bandaid … but a heat attack could require cracking open your chest and skilled surgeons cutting into your heart to solve the problem or maybe even a heart transplant.  A small spot on your skin can be burned off at the dermatologist but cancer inside your body that has spread is a huge problem to solve with surgery and chemo therapy.

If using porn has been difficult for you to stop … or even impossible … then it is time for you to say to yourself the truth … you have a big problem and solving it is going to take hard work.  Here is the first thing you need to start with.

  1. Create your sexual sin history. A timeline of everything you can remember regarding the sexual sins you have committed or have been done against you.  You do not need to record all the details.  Approximate age and what happened is enough.  Just get it down on paper or computer file that is password protected.

Mine took a weekend … about 9 hours and 11 pages I finished it.  It was extrememly sobering.  It was painful and in the end I literally prayed;  “Father, I feel like a pile of shit.”  Then I heard Him say to me … John those are things that you did … it is not who you are.  You are my  child and I love you.”  Great healing moment.

Start writing your sexual sin history or inventory this week.  You will not want to do it.  Satan will not want you to do it.  However, it is the start of a journey that will lead you in recovery.  However, it starts with the truth of what you have done and facing that truth yourself.

May God give you the courage to take this first step and at this point nobody else needs to know this information but you.

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