Is Once an Addict Always an Addict True?
Do you believe that you will ever be free from your sexual addiction? That idea is the subject I am going to focus on in this next week because I think it is a critical question we need to answer.
For decades, the addiction model has been; “Once an Addict, Always an Addict.”
This idea is primarily coming from those who believe addiction is a disease and so the addict feels he or she is at the same risk level for relapse even years down the road as they were when they entered recovery.
Let me be clear I do believe that believers in Christ can and do become addicted to porn and sex. However, there are some very major things we need to understand not only about our sexual behavior but even more importantly about our relationship with God through what Christ has done for us and what the Spirit can do in us.
So, let’s combine what we can learn about our relationship with Christ, the indwelling presence of the Spirit within a community of confession, honesty, and support with biblical truth and learn what I believe can be very encouraging to us all and our recoveries.
I have been in my recovery for 12 years, five months and 13 days (4551 days according to google). At first, I believed that with God’s help I would be set free from my addiction. However, as the years passed and I was still learning about myself and my addictive behavior, I began to buy into the idea that I would be a sex addict for the rest of my life.
Then I realized that I was identifying myself by my addiction which is not true. The bible clearly teaches that I am a new creation in Christ. These verses are clear.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.”
God declares that I am a new creation in Christ. That is who I really am and how I need to identify myself. So, to be accurate, I should not say;
“Hi, my name is John, and I am a sex addict.”
I should say;
“Hi, my name is John, and I am a new creation in Christ
who struggles with sexual brokenness.”
I have now realized that Christ has set me free from my sexual addiction. That’s right, I said it, and I mean it. I am free from my sexually acting out behavior. However, I am not set free from temptation. Is it possible that I might relapse? Yes, because I still have a sinful nature, live in a sinful world and do battle with spiritual forces of darkness.
That is what I face every day and so do you. However, sin is not my master and will not be my master if I am daily choosing Christ to be my Lord, asking the Spirit to fill me, walk in the Spirit and put on the full armor of God. And that is not just true for me but for every Christian alive right now.
There is freedom for you as well. It may take you time to learn what you need to do daily and time to work through some very challenging issues that pertain to your recovery, however, nothing is impossible with God. This next week we are going to focus on this idea in hopes of everyone learning that there is freedom in Christ from any and all kinds of addictions.
Amen and Amen!