Stopping Your Self-Condemnation
Have you ever said; “I hate myself!” Wait, let me rephrase that. Have you said; “I hate myself!” already today? Have you said it out loud, or to yourself inside your head already today. Or maybe, like some, hear this constant tape playing in the background of your conscious telling you …
- You are stupid.
- You are a loser.
- You are a failure.
- You will never be able to stop using porn and sex.
- And you call yourself a Christian?
There are not very many stronger forces that warp our lives into a very bad place as self-condemnation. The only time it seems to shut-up is when it has driven you to parking lot of sexual sin, dropped you off and opened the door to Escape to Fantasy Land Theme Park and waits for you to come back out having had your orgasm and ready to repeat another volley of attacks on what a horrible person you are.
Eventually, you will tell it to stop the car, get out, call for Uber and return back to Fantasy Land for another escape.
It seems like an endless cycle because it is. Stress and emotional pain drive us to want to escape into sexual brokenness. It does its job of focusing our mind on sex and feeling powerful desires that we know will be satisfied. That is then followed up with guilt, shame, and fear which drives you back to wanting to use sex again as the escape. However, it is not an escape, it is only taking you further into your addiction.
These words of self-condemnation are lies and coming from the father of lies – satan. How do I know they are lies and not true? Because we are told in Romans 8:1 that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. And if the God of the Universe has no condemnation toward you then why should you condemn yourself?
You think you have done terrible things, and that is probably true, so have I. However, I have confessed them to God, disclosed them to my wife and made amends wherever and whenever I can. Now it is time to let that self-condemnation go or better yet demand it to go. Sometimes I will just tell with whoever is speaking self-condemning words at me to just shut-up. And then I turn my thoughts to ones of thanksgiving but who God is and what He has done.
Lastly, I strongly urge you to memorize this verse.
“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything, worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)
It is time to stop listening to the lies of self-condemnation and start listening to the Holy Spirit who dwells inside of you. Dwell on the things that are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, of good repute, excellent and worthy of praise.