Fleeing Fantasy Land – Blog
I know that many of us who struggle with sexual brokenness struggle emotionally. If you feel depressed, have panic attacks, afraid of what might happen next welcome to recovery. One of the reasons it is so hard to stop addictive behaviors is because we do not want to feel bad. Depression, anxiety, and fear all suck and I do not want to feel like crap so why not watch porn and feel better for a while?
When we first began to create this pattern of behavior we might not have been in emotional distress or have mind breaking stress levels in our lives. For many it started with the surprising event of finding some porn by accident as a pre-teen and wow, were we excited to see it. Then, as our hormones were developing it brought us hours of excitement and pleasure to fill times of boredom.
Slowly, during adolescence, our sexual desires grew, our appetites developed, and it just seemed like a very easy way to forget our troubles, do something really exciting, and have this enormous event at the end that felt better than any of life’s other experiences.
Now add to that the “joys” of going through puberty, feeling so awkward through Middle School and wondering what was going on with your rapidly growing body, sex became your escape. In porn and in fantasy land we were not the insecure fumbling dork with very little confidence. We could be anyone we wanted to be and do anything we wanted to do.
No matter how rotten a day we might have had, how bored we might have felt, or how embarrassed we might have been over something stupid we said or did; Fantasy Land welcomed us with open arms. It was a place where we felt in control, felt loved, and everything we said or did was appreciated by all.
The problem was the more we went there the deeper sexual sin had its hooks into us and our exciting way to escape became a prison we were locked into. For some of you, it has been decades you have been enslaved to your desires. For others, perhaps, only a matter of a few years. Regardless of how long you have been using sex as an escape to pleasure or a way to deaden the pain of life you find it extremely hard to stop and walk away from it all.
Have you ever thought that perhaps the reason God saved you was so that He could rescue you from this bondage? Do you know that He choose you before the creation of the world, adopted you as one of His children, placed His Spirit inside of your body for the very purpose of rescuing you from any bondage to any sin? Plus, no matter where you have been or what you have done there is complete and eternal forgiveness in Christ Jesus.
I leave you with these two verses to think about over the weekend. Use them to stop believing that God is done with you and that He has rejected you. You are still one of His precious children and He will never, ever, let you go.
“For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6)
“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” (Ephesians 3:16-19)