A 180 New Year’s Eve Story
So, let me tell you a story about four guys on New Year’s Day.
One is thinking, “Great… it’s a new year and this year I am going to stop acting out sexually. I am going to break free from this addiction and soar to heights hereto not experienced with God. I am going to go further and fly higher than I ever have before.”
He says this to himself as he straps on his new hang-gliding kit at the top of the cliff. His Renewed Determination Kit – which includes plans to read his bible more, pray more, and go to church more – arrived on the first of the year (like it does every year!) He found it on Amazon.com. He believes that if he just does… MORE… he can lick this problem … just like he thought last year and the year before that.
So, today, he is strapping on the glider and is ready to launch out into this new adventure where things will be different. Of that, he is sure, because he has recommitted himself… and he really means it this time. All the while, the demons are having an office pool as to how many days it will take to trigger his wounds and bring him down in a glorious and shame-filled crash.
Will they use the woman he works with and has been thinking about? Or a visit from his mother? Perhaps turning up the heat of his financial situation. One demon says, “Or we can just remind him of the old standby argument… tell him he has to have some sort of sex or his balls will explode from the pressure.”
The demons are rolling on the floor laughing.
Then down beneath the high cliff, walking along the narrow path are three men. They have been walking together for a long time. They know each other’s stories. They have a history together. On more than one occasion they have rescued each other from the slews of despair each of them has occasionally fallen into.
One says to the others “I think today is the first day of the New Year.” Not in a balloon popping, ball dropping, confetti throwing sort of way. Just a casual comment to denote the turning of a new calendar year. Their heads are not in the sky dreaming about what might be achieved by trying harder. They have crashed and burned too many times.
They have jumped from the cliff alone. The other two just say “Yup” and keep walking. Their eyes are on the path. Their conversation isn’t some wish filled wonderland talk taking place between their own ears. They have been deceived by that false hope too many times and have the scars to prove it. They have tried it all before… alone… and tasted defeat over and over again.
So, now, they are content to keep their eyes focused on the next step and thankful that they are walking together. Open. Honest. Real. Left foot… right foot. Another day… and one day at a time.
My friends, I write you this story because I know what it is like standing on the top of that cliff. Alone. Defeated. Afraid of what the future might hold and realizing that even your best efforts will not be good enough,
That is why over a year ago I started the 180 Online Support Teams. Currently, there are 9 of them meeting almost every day of the week and at different times. There are men from the USA, Canada, England, Germany, Sweden, Rwanda, and India.
We work through the 25 videos I have made called the 180 Recovery Program. Each person watches the video of that week before the meeting, then we discuss it, hold one another accountable for the past week, talk about things that will help each other and most importantly, we text each other daily to encourage one another and help each other when temptation comes.
This is the missing element in your recovery. My program is based on Biblical truth and so the lessons are all from Scripture. These groups are helping 80+ men and there is room for you. If you are interested in really finding freedom in 2019 email me and I will give you the details, so you can sit in on a group just to see what they are like and then we can talk about the details.
Don’t just hope for change and remain isolated. I promise you that will only fail … again. Join a 180 Online Support Team and get the training and help you really need in 2019.