The Holy Spirit is THE Answer! blog
In Saturday’s email, we talked about what we have to lose if we continue to walk in our sexual brokenness and keep living in the addictive behavior of sexual sin. I said there is a lot to lose and here are some examples; Things like;
- Your marriage.
- Your job and the financial security it provides.
- Your career and value of their education
- Your family.
- Any respect others may have had for you.
- Your financial security should you end up being sued.
- Your health should you catch an STD.
Most of you do not need to be convinced about the destruction sexual sin can bring into your life because you are already experiencing it. I get emails all the time of men telling me how much this sin has damaged them. They are living in constant fear of someone finding out and anger at themselves that they simply cannot stop doing what they know is eating them alive.
Enough of that – focusing on the negative side because I have found out even in my own journey that the negative realities of addiction will never be enough to give you the power to stop. If it were enough then you would have stopped. As time has passed and you find yourself still falling into sexual sin and perhaps going deeper into it, you are beginning to realize how powerful this sin is and how difficult it will be to stop. You might have even concluded that it is impossible, and you will be addicted for life. Which is not true.
So, let’s focus on how we move forward and begin to experience real change. The most important thing is we all need to realize that the change we need must begin with the work of the Holy Spirit. It is His role in the life of every believer to bring about inner transformation of our heart and mind so that our desires are changed from wanting sin to wanting purity.
For example, let’s say that in some way the desire of your heart is transformed to wanting more sexual purity. Now the power of sexual sin does not come from our hearts but from our sin nature or our flesh. Paul makes this clear in Romans 7:21-23;
“I find then the principle that evil is present in me, the one who wants to do good. For I joyfully concur with the law of God in the inner man, but I see a different law in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin which is in my members.”
Paul is very clear in this passage of Romans 7:7-25 that when we sin it is because of the sin nature that dwells inside of us and has been there our entire lives. We sin because the power of our sinful nature or flesh has grown strong over the years. It has become addicted to sex and wants it more and more.
However, we have become new creations in Christ when we were born again and in our new man, we have a heart and a mind that can be transformed by the Spirit. As we make the effort to grow stronger in the Spirit by learning from the Bible and deepening our communion with the Lord, the Spirit can make the desires of our heart stronger than the desires of our sin nature.
We should be growing stronger as the Spirit transforms us, and our flesh should be growing weaker. Notice what Paul says in Romans 8:12-13;
“So then, brethren, we are under obligation, not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh—for if you are living according to the flesh, you [f]must die; but if by the Spirit you are putting to death the deeds of the body, you will live.”
Notice carefully that he does not tell US to be putting to death the deeds of the body, or our desire for sexual sin. He tells us to put to death the deeds of the body “BY THE SPIRIT!!!”
The reason we have tried to stop and failed with great regularity is that we are striving in our own power to stop sexual sin. However, here we are clearly told that we are to put to death the deeds of the body … “by the Spirit!”
Tomorrow I will begin to teach you how to do that.