Why Does the Spirit Grieve When We Sin? blog
Last night in our Thursday Online Support Team we were studying that two things happen when we sin.
- When we do something God has told us NOT to do – we GRIEVE the Spirit.
- When we DO NOT do something God has told us to do – we STIFLE or QUENCH the Spirit.
So, we were talking about this grieving of the Spirit that happens when we sin. And I asked the question what does it mean to grieve the Spirit and why is He grieved? The silence was deafening. So, we dug a little deeper and found what I believe to be a real nugget of truth that can help us.
I am sure the feeling of being grieved is common to all of us. To be grieved is to have feelings of sadness. We grieve the death of a loved one or a pet. The loss of a child seems even greater because we have expectations that a child will live to be an adult.
We were talking about this and I realized that much of the grief that we experience is because of unfulfilled expectations. We have hopes and dreams about how things will be. We work hard to achieve what we believe we really want to happen in the future and when it does not happen, we become grieved.
It deeply grieved my wife when I had to confess to her my years of addiction to porn and the sexual sins I committed. She was not thinking of that, nor was I, when we said the words to one another … “For Better or Worse.” Almost 40 years ago.
However, that is never what happens when the Spirit is grieved because it is impossible for the Spirit to have unfulfilled expectations. He knows all things and has always known all things. He knows what I will do every day for the rest of my life and so when I sin, I am just doing what He knew I would do. So, that is not the reason my sin grieves Him.
As we were talking about this God revealed to me a new truth that I had never thought of before. What grieves Him is not that I committed a sin and it hurt Him. He is grieved because whenever I choose to sin, I hurt myself. He is grieved because I am wounding myself and missing out from the good He can bring into my life. I choose sin over His Will. I sacrifice what would be glorious for what is garbage.
God the Father, God the Son and God the Spirit have a plan for all of us and that is to take us from being dead in our sins and transgressions and conforming us into the image of Christ.
- He rescues us from the dominion of darkness – Colossians 1:13
- He draws us to Jesus and gives us the faith to believe – John 6:44
- He causes us to be born again – 1 Peter 1:3
- He seals us with the Holy Spirit – Ephesians 1:13-14
- He makes us into a new creation who is now alive in Christ – 2 Corinthians 5:17
And there is far more I could mention. My point is that God has this incredible plan for us, and it is a plan of blessing and abundance. It is to allow us to experience Him living in us and producing an abundant life and the fruit of the Spirit.
What grieves Him is when we push all of that away so that we might have another taste of sexual sin. Sexual sin damages us and our ability to have a quality relationship with others because shame drives us deeper into darkness. It damages our wives, friends, family members.
It causes suffering in our lives and in the lives of those around us and THAT is why it grieves the Spirit. Just like it would grieve me if any of my children or grandchildren would choose to hurt themselves over and over again. I would grieve over their pain and what it might cost them in the long run.
Normally we choose to do the thing that is going to be helpful for us and bring benefit to our lives. I do not get in my car every day and try to find an accident I can create. Why? Because of the cost and potential injury to myself and others. So, I drive carefully. I follow the rules and obey the traffic signals. Especially if there is a police car behind me. And if I am driving drunk how foolish is that? I would be impairing my ability to drive safely and increasing the potential for damage to myself and others.
Yet, isn’t that what we are doing when we continue to give in to our sexual desires? When we use porn and self-gratification which is grieving the Holy Spirit because we are harming ourselves?
This is a big deal … more on it tomorrow. However, for today … be filled with the Spirit and offer to Him the members of your body to be His instruments of righteousness. Use your right hand to help a brother up … instead of jerking yourself off. Sorry for the bluntness of that but wanted to make a point.