Basic Training for Sexual Brokenness Recovery – blog
Everyone that either goes into the military, plays on a sports team or starts a new job knows you have to start with some basic training. It is where your transformation begins from being a civilian to becoming a soldier. A civilian is someone who lives under the law of the land with all the rights and responsibilities granted to the entire citizenship of the land.
However, a soldier, an athlete, or an employee has placed themselves under another authority … another group of people … another set of rules and regulations. At times our country has gone to war people were drafted into the military. You did not have a choice. Getting on a team means you have developed some skills needed to play that sport. Being hired for a job means you either have some experience or some education and training.
When I turned 18, April 26, 1971, I had to register with the US government and eventually received a draft number. If your number was called up, you were required to show up. Once you showed up you went off to Boot Camp.
The purpose of basic training whether it is in the military, sports, employment or even playing in a band is that you need to practice together and learn what you need to know and do so that you can contribute to the organization making you and everyone in it better.
Suddenly your world drastically changed. Instead of living as a free citizen going about your day doing the things you wanted to do when you wanted to do them … everything was planned out and scheduled for you. This was all part of the military process of transforming you from a freethinking individual that, within reason, could do just about whatever you wanted to do … into a cog that could be trusted in the military machine.
See in war, when lives are on the line and things happen in a split second, training is needed to help you do what you need to do to stay alive and keep others around you alive. The same is true if you want to be on a police force or work for the fire department.
Now whether you want to admit it or not we are all in a war. We don’t draft people to attend 180. They come because they are getting wounded and their lives are being destroyed. The battle has damaged them, their marriage and their family and if something doesn’t change the marriage is over. Some people lose their jobs. Some go to jail. Some end up with STD’s. Casualties are showing up in every place imaginable … even the Oval Office.
In this new series of emails, I want to teach you the most basic things you will need to know and the things you need to do to not only survive in this war but win the battles you have been losing. We address not only the Spiritual realities of this battle but the physiological, emotional and relational realities as well. So, listen …
Knowing without doing leads to nothing.
Doing without knowing wastes time and energy.
Know and doing will bring change and help you begin to see God working in you and changing you.
I hope that you will see this as an opportunity for you to begin your recovery from sexual brokenness from the very start. Imagine that you just started a new job, or became a member of a sports team, or got a new job, or joined a new band. Starting anything new means learning what you need to know, putting it into practice, and becoming a valuable member of a team.
These will be foundational ideas you need to learn and begin to do on a daily basis. Healing does not come from just learning these things any more than losing weight comes from reading a book on dieting. It will be in both knowing and doing that will … day by day … which will begin to change you from being isolated in sin to finding freedom by working and living in a community.
Right from the start, I want you to know that this battle that we are all in will take everything you have and more to win. Our war is with the world, the flesh, and the devil and does not end until you die and then is the final victory … but until then we learn to fight one day at a time and see how many battles we can win along the way.
I am sure that you have tried to stop a countless number of times. I used all the excuses and rationalizations that you have and now … with over 13 years in recovery, I can tell you it is a battle in which you can experience victory and experience a growing and healthy healing from your sexual brokenness.
But it will not be easy!!! However, I promise you that if you will put in the effort and follow the steps that I have learned are the steps to your freedom, you will make progress and become a more Christ-like person. How do I know this? Because what I am going to teach you comes straight from the Word of God and have helped thousands of others.