Attitude Adjustment Area Ahead – blog
Today I am beginning to develop for you the Basic Training for recovering from our sexual brokenness. This will be a series that will go on for a while. What I am wanting to do is teach you the most foundational and fundamental things we all need to know to begin and proceed in our recovery together. This will then become an eBook that I will be able to offer everyone who first begins being helped by 180 Ministries.
As of today, there have been 133 new people added to the 180 Ministries emails of encouragement this year. We are a global ministry with 2154 people in 56 different nations around the world receiving these daily emails. When new people are added to the list, I want to offer them this information which eventually will be available on the 180 website – www.180recover.com. So that anyone will have a new place to start that will teach them the basics of a Christ-centered and Holy Spirit empowered recovery, being is done within a community of no condemnation and believers helping one another.
It all starts with your attitude. If you are reading this or listening to the podcast, then you are here because you realize that you need help. If you are like me, you have tried to stop this highly addictive behavior many times without success. You feel like you cannot share the truth with anyone because it could cost you your job, blow up your marriage and damage your friends and family. So, you have remained isolated and do not have the help you need.
Perhaps you have cried out to God and made promises over and over again that you will stop. Only to find what was a strong feeling and motivation at the time melted away in the next moment of temptation. Before we get into the details of why that happens, I want to begin by discussing what our attitude needs to be if we are going to have success.
The attitude any person needs to have if they are going to make a serious change in their lives is that they have to be all in. In your mind and heart, there needs to be a resolute decision that you are going to quit … whatever it takes. In some circles, this is called hitting rock bottom. You cannot continue to live this way and you have fallen and a rock bottom is … completely inflexible. There is no way to go but up and there seems to be no ladder or rope available.
I hit rock bottom on September 9th, 2005 when I was forced to resign my position as a Senior Pastor after 26 years of full-time ministry. I was addicted to porn and was unfaithful to my wife and now it felt like everything was over and I had no idea if my wife would divorce me and my 4 children ages 16,18, 22, and 24 would hate me and disown me forever.
That is what I deserved. There was no way for me to lie my way out of it and I know I had to come clean, confess what I had done, and completely rely on the grace of God to do whatever He wanted with me. Could I try and put the pieces of my life back together again? Sure, I was a fixer, but this was something I could never fix, and I wanted only one thing. I wanted God to do with me whatever He wanted. I would live one day at a time and take the steps He directed me to take … left foot, right foot, left foot, right foot.
That is the attitude we all need to have. For far too long we have rationalized our way into another scheme doomed to failure. We need to humble ourselves in the sight of the Lord and allow Him to lift us up at the right time and in His own way. I would simply do what He wanted me to do.
After 13½ years I am still living that way. I do not trust myself because I have a sinful nature inside of me, I have an external enemy with demonic powers, and I live behind enemy lines in a fallen and sex-saturated world.
So, what is your attitude? What are you prepared to do? Please, do not make another half-assed effort and give it your best shot. Join me and walk with me as I teach you what you need to know and based on that knowing what you need to do.
This 180 Recovery Program that I have written and produced has helped thousands of people. Some, over time, find great periods of freedom. Others struggle along but are learning from their mistakes and keep making progress in their recovery.
Even this morning in an Online Support Team one gentleman said that this past month has been the most sexually pure month since he was a teen, decades ago. This is not because we have a magic formula that has cured him. It means that he is beginning to realize truths from the Word of God, applying them to his life, doing everything he needs to be doing and is now connected with one of our Online Support Teams.
I want you to ask yourself if you are ready to be “ALL IN” with your own recovery? Are you ready to do whatever it takes and whatever God shows you to do? We do not expect perfection and there is plenty of room for error and failures. But we learn from our mistakes, help each other up, and move forward as a team.
God has been and is now all in for you. He has already become a man and died for all of your sins. He has already placed His Spirit inside of your body. He has taken you from being spiritually dead in your sins and made you alive in Christ. You are a new creation and a child of God’s and he is ready and willing to help you if you are ready to help yourself.
I encourage you to get on your knees and surrender your body, heart, mind, and soul to Him daily and tell Him that you are ready to learn from the Word of God what to do next.
We will begin to address that on Monday.