Are You Just Spinning Your Wheels in Recovery? ~ blog
After working on my own recovery for 14 years, running the 180 Recovery Ministry for over 10 years, and helping thousands of believers around the world I have seen over and over again this one truth … every body’s recovery is different.
Part of the problem in dealing with sexually broken believers is how complex and different every person’s recovery can be. Sure, you can do the 12 Steps even the Christian 12 Steps. You can work through my own program of 25 videos and a workbook which is steeped in biblical truth and practical lessons I have learned myself. However, recovery is much more than gaining knowledge it must also include taking action.
Have you ever noticed that almost everybody in the world is different? Ok, there are some identical twins out there and they come close but even they are not exactly the same. We are all human beings, created in the image of God with bodies made up of 37,200,000,000 cells (that’s trillion cells). In general, we are all born with the same number and kinds of body parts.
However, the differences between us are multitudinous. Add to that the reality that we all have different DNA, personality types, cultures, races, educational levels, opportunities and experiences one has to approach their recovery as very specific and unique to them.
There are biblical truths that in general apply to us all. But how those truths are learned and accomplished can vary greatly. For example, take two men who are the same age, raised in the same city or are even in the same family. If one of them has experienced trauma in his life this will impact his recovery and make it more difficult. If one has had emotional and psychological problems this too will mean, there will be different and perhaps more difficult things for them to have to work through.
Just like doctors who deal with patients every day that are all human beings every single one of them is different and must be treated individually depending on the symptoms they are experiencing. Which is why diagnosing one patient’s need from another can be a real challenge sometimes. As our medical history folder grows and with that information available it helps doctors know what to do.
So, do you feel you have been spinning your wheels and not getting much traction in your recovery? I can tell you with great certainty that this is normal. The problem this creates is that every one of us can get discouraged easily. We enter recovery with great hope only to find that the battle is far greater than we could have ever imagined. It is not only a spiritual battle, but it is physical, emotional, mental, and relational.
It is something that one can be delivered from, but I find that very rare and then one realizes that after a deliverance experience one still finds themselves being tempted. We can be delivered from our past, but that does not mean the deliverance will continue into our future. Because we all still have a sin nature, live in a fallen world, and do battle against demonic forces this battle only ends when we step into heaven.
So, have I discouraged you enough for today? Sorry, but I think we all need to live in the realm of reality and realizing that this is not just all going to go away.
I have said all of this to bring us to this point. Many of you have been trying for years to stop sexual sin. There have been some better seasons for many reasons, but you find yourself having settled into some kind of pattern. For some it is once a week, once a month or once a day. Some men I know have been about to string together several months and then, like one man I know he said he was going along great but then had 6 falls. Another man I know went a year without a fall, accomplished his goal and then fell 3 times in the next week.
For almost all of us, there are things that we need to discover which could be root causes to our sexual brokenness. Porn, lust, and sexual sin are not the root causes but are the fruit that comes from a deeper root. Jesus said to his disciples in Matthew 15:17-20;
“Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person; but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”
My point is that part of the healing process of recovery is to discover if there are some root causes of our sexual sin. There can be any number of them and I think it is normal to have a couple. However, this week I want to drill down into one that I see fairly frequently and that is the cause coming from demonic influences. That’s right Flip Wilson said it best …
The Devil Made Me Do It!!!
If that is indeed part of your addiction, I am going to show you how to determine if that is true, why that might be part of your problem, and what you will need to do to deal with it. I also know some people who specialize in this type of work who I am confident referring you to them.
Do not feel overwhelmed. I am not saying you are demon-possessed. Most of us at some time of another are demonically harassed or influenced but it is the Holy Spirit of God who dwells inside of your body and He has given us the power and authority to deal with this potential root cause of sexual brokenness.
Hang in there … more tomorrow.