Overconsumption at Sexual Buffets ~ blog
As I am learning more about our brains and how easy it is to become addicted to online porn the basic premise is simple and easy to understand. Our brains store information on everything we do. However, when an experience is powerful … either good or bad it really takes note.
For example, you probably have no recollection of how many cracks in the sidewalk you stepped on yesterday. Insignificant experiences are noted but not remembered because they were not memorable. Find a 1-ounce American Eagle Gold coin worth over $1500 in the crack and you would remember it very clearly. You might start looking into every crack hoping to have that experience again.
When an experience is enjoyable or painful our brain registers those experiences usually followed by a strong desire to experience it again or to avoid experiencing it again. When we were beginning to go through puberty our sexual desires began to develop. A hormone begins to be developed in our brains causing an increase hormone called testosterone.
Three outward signs are the development of facial hair, body odor, and a lower voice. Somewhere either before, during or after we begin to notice the sexual development of girls or we see a naked image, photo, or today a hard-core sex scene, we become aroused and learn that contact with our penis is pleasurable. If rubbed enough we have our first orgasm.
Wow … that experience gets registered into our brain and memory banks as maybe the best thing that has ever happened to us. Almost immediately we want to do it again. Our brains have an explosion of dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine and like the child after eating his first piece of candy … it wants more and more and more.
The opposite is true. Once when I was a young boy, I came in from playing in the snow. I removed my cold and wet clothes in the entryway inside the back door and walked over to the stove because my mom had some hot chocolate on the stove for me. I pulled a chair over to the stove, climbed upon it, and leaned over the stove to see if the coco was ready. Unfortunately, she put the pot on the back burner but turned on the front burner. As soon as the skin on my lower abdomen came in contact with the burner, I had a strong and immediate reaction. I still have the scar and to this day I am very careful around the stove.
A strong negative experience gets registered under the file “Thing to Not Do” while pleasurable experiences get filed under “Things to Do Again.” When something is pleasurable, we want more and so if it is seeing porn, masturbating, and having an orgasm that seems to make it to the top of the list. We want it again. We want it more because it feels so good.
Now food is good and eating good food is a very satisfying experience. Sit down with the family to meatloaf, mashed potatoes with gravy, and green beans and you eat your fill and most stop when their hunger is satiated.
However, most people do not do that at the Hometown Buffet. There is so much there that we almost overeat because we want to sample more kinds of food and then there is a wide variety of desserts. Overconsumption is the norm. We eat more than we need and suffer the consequences of gluttony. The same can be true at church potlucks where we overconsume and our LUCK for so many dishes becomes the POT that is now our belly.
My first exposure to porn was when I was 12 and found my dad’s Playboys. On the rare occasion when I was home alone, I made a beeline to the stash and masturbated to what I found. The problem today is that porn is omnipresent. We literally have a virtual buffet of anything we might want to see, and it is there 24/7/365.
Overconsumption becomes the norm because our brains always want more. God knows that and so did Paul when he wrote;
“So, I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed.”
Just as overconsumption of food goes along with a variety of food so an overconsumption of porn and masturbation becomes the norm because we are easily and always sitting at the sexual buffet or online porn.
These very pleasurable experiences are stored in our brains and since the chemicals released into our brains are highly addictive our brain wants more. More variety and more frequency. And this is now available to us non-stop. Slowly we move from simple porn to more extreme hardcore porn. Eventually, even that gets boring and so we begin to find fetishes of even more exciting things that will have a sense of newness to them.
And with the infinite amount of data pornographers have on the patterns different people tend to follow they know you. They know where you have been and most likely where you will want to go next when what you are currently into becomes boring.
I know you want to stop but you are in a much more powerful battle than you realize. This is not something you will be able to overcome on your own. There are biblical truths that will help when being learned and practiced in a community of other men fighting the same battle.
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