How to Stop Looking at Porn ~ blog

 In Daily Encouragement

That’s the big question…right???  Obviously, there is no simple answer that is a quick fix for everyone.  Sure, there are things that can help.  There are medications you can take, counseling you can receive, groups you can join, and promises you can make and maybe they work for a while but eventually you find yourself going back to what you hate…or love…or hate…or love.  Which is it?  Some days it is one and other days it is the other.

You are absolutely sure in your heart you want to stop.  In your mind, you can think of a hundred reasons why you should stop and the good things that can happen in your life if you do stop.  You also might be facing serious consequences and have a number of reasons what will happen if you do not stop.

For me, in the early stages of my own recovery, it was a dark and shame-filled season.  It was hard to think and reason clearly when I had hit rock bottom and only by the grace of God my wife has chosen to stick with me. Yet, in spite of my powerful addiction to porn and numerous infidelities, she chose to give me the chance to do what I was so desperately telling her I wanted to do.

So, I began my journey to read and study everything I could find where I might find some answers.  I did find numerous answers based on different theories and suggestions of what others found worked for them.  I learned about this addiction from a spiritual, physiological, emotional, and relational standpoint.  I learned the science behind how the brain becomes wired by addiction and also that it can be rewired.

Slowly I began to formulate the steps of my own journey, learning as I went not only from my own experiences and knowledge but from others as well. Reading experts from all different backgrounds I thought; “What can I bring to the table that perhaps others cannot.  What expertise do I have that might shed some light on recovery that fits with what others are saying?  I have a Ph.D. in nothing.  There are no credentials hanging on my walls proving that I have fulfilled the requirements for being a therapist, a psychologist, or a psychiatrist.

All I have is a Master of Divinity and certification as a Sex Addiction Coach. However, what I do have is 48 years of being in Christ and 45 years of being a serious student of the Bible. I have 40 years of studying, preaching, and teaching Scriptures and I bring to the table biblical truth which I have learned it pretty significant in one’s recovery, especially if someone is a born-again new creation in Christ.  I have knowledge of the truth that is revealed in God’s Word.

Now let me answer the question;

How Does Any Christian Stop Looking at Porn?

Looking at porn or doing any kind of sinful activity be it sexual or not is the result of what, according to the Spirit, leads James to write in James 1:14;

 

“But each one is tempted when he is

carried away and enticed by his own lust.”

 

We all have lusts.  A lust for porn, or alcohol, or drugs, or food, or gambling, or success, or money, position, power, and love.  All of these things and more are what people are striving after hoping it will fulfill their desires and they will be satisfied.  They are trying to fill their lives with this stuff but fail to realize that the hole in which they are seeking to accumulate all this stuff has no bottom.  It does not fill up and even though they might think they will be fulfilled they are not.

Look at the wealthy.  Look at the Stars and the Successful.  Look at their pictures on the rag magazines at the grocery counter and the crap that is being reported about them.  The world cheers as they are making success.  They cheer as they are climbing their ladder of success. They watch their movies and see them being champions in sports…but they cheer even louder when they fail, and their world falls apart.

The Bible makes it clear and simple.  We have these lusts in us that we have developed and once born and nurtured in our life they grow an amazing appetite for more.  And this is especially true with sexual lusts.  What God has intended to be an incredible part of a marriage the world has inflamed and the fires burning through our lives seem like the fires in Australia.  We cannot seem to put them out and keep them out.

So, what is the answer?  How can any Christian stop looking at porn?  There is no simple answer, but I can tell you where your journey needs to begin.  I can tell you the one answer that we have from Scriptures that I know is absolutely true and applicable for every believer. It needs to be the first step of every day for the rest of your life after you have asked the Holy Spirit to fill you.  We find it in Galatians 5:16;

“But I say, walk by the Spirit,

and you will not carry out the desire of the flesh.”

In addition to the power of the Holy Spirit giving you the ability to say no to sexual sin, He has the power to transform you into becoming a more Christ-like man.  Which is what He wants to be doing in the life of every believer.

Being filled with the Spirit and walking in the Spirit go hand in hand and He is the answer to the powerful lusts that only He can deal with.  This will be our focus for the week.

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