The Quest for True and Lasting Intimacy ~ blog
For the past two days, I have been trying to make the case that there is only one way for all of us to find true intimacy. Our world culture has become hypnotized and led to believe that intimacy can be found in sex. The more sex the better which has led us into a world of sexual perversion, child pornography, and sexual violence.
Once someone begins to use sex as an escape from boredom or pain, they find that sex is a very dangerous addiction. Like all addictions, there is no end of the road where you will be satiated, and all is good. There is a hook in addictive substances and behaviors that will take you further than you thought you would ever go and demand more frequency.
During arousal and the sexual experience, your mind is completely engaged, and you feel really good. You can suddenly have strength and energy as you wolf down images and videos that take you to an ever-heightening rush. Then your body explodes with another orgasm and waves of peace and calm wash over you.
That is the sexual experience. It can deliver a powerful delight that is ultimately only a momentary distraction from what you are really feeling in your life. Then, when reality sets back in, guilt and shame come bursting in and the self-condemnation and loathing begin while intimacy is nowhere to be found. Only the desire for further isolation remains.
So, the sexual experience, outside of its God-given original purpose of an experience between a husband and wife within the context of emotional and spiritual intimacy, is no intimacy at all. It is False Intimacy that always takes more than it gives and isolates you into more fear and shame.
However, there is in life true intimacy. It can only come from one relationship and that is our relationship with God our Father, Jesus our Lord and Savior, and the indwelling Holy Spirit. In that relationship, which we have been given by grace out of the love God, has always and will always be where we can experience true intimacy. We find that God, the Creator, and Sustainer of the Universe, loves us completely and unconditionally.
Look at how we are taught this in Ephesians 3:
“For this reason I bow my knees before the Father…that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God.”
That my friends is where we will find true intimacy. The relationship we must focus on and put our effort into where we will find a never-ceasing flow of unconditional love is our relationship with Jesus.
It is He and He alone who knows absolutely everything there is to know about us. And He has always known everything we would think, do, or say. He has already taken every single one of our sins and took our punishment…our punishment onto Himself, offering His holy and sinless body as a sacrifice for all of our sins.
And we have been thrown into an ocean of His love. No matter how far we swim, or how deep we dive we can never ever reach the end or find the bottom of His love for us.
This passage tells us that we need to be praying for the Holy Spirit would strengthen us in our inner-being and causing us to be rooted and grounded in His love. To experience the limitless and immense amount of His love. I find it a bit humorous that Paul says that we should try to comprehend and know the love of Christ…WHICH SURPASSES KNOWLEDGE!
But notice what happens as we make it a point to better comprehend this infinite love that Christ has for us …
“…that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God!!!”
This is where we can find true intimacy. This is where we can find the longings of our hearts to be in a relationship with someone who can fill us up. That empty hole that we have been dumping everything we can think of into, which is really a bottomless pit, can be filled to the brim and overflowing with the infinite ocean of God’s gracious love.
And unlike the momentary intense pleasure of sexual sin which only leaves you emptier and craving more and more and more. We can be filled up to all the fullness of God.
How much fullness do you need before you begin to experience true intimacy with God? How big is your ever-emptying love tank? Where is the one and only resource that can fill us up and keep us filled up for all eternity? Only Jesus has the capacity to always be filling us every day.
How does that happen? How can we begin to experience this limitless love of Christ and be filled up to all the fullness of God?
That is what we will begin to discuss tomorrow …