Being Filled Up to All the Fullness of God ~ blog
I have been making the case that true intimacy is something we are all designed to desire. Our world has been telling us for years that this intimacy can be found in sex. There is a physical intimacy that occurs when two people have sex, but this is not an intimacy that lasts or even begins to fill the emptiness so many of us feel.
Sex with images or videos online is even less fulfilling. It “feels good”, yes, but it does not and cannot “fill good.” It’s a candy bar for quick energy like eating a Snickers to stave off hunger for a short while, but eventually, you still need the nourishment of a good and balanced diet.
Yesterday we looked at an amazing promise that is found in Paul’s prayer for the believers in Ephesus. Let’s read the passage again;
“…that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God.”
This is at the heart of what every one of us who struggle with sexual brokenness and addiction are trying to find. We want to be filled up to all the fullness of God. We want to feel completely full and we have been trying to fill the emptiness with things that will never fill us up because our need is a bottomless pit that only God alone can fill.
So, how exactly can this happen in our lives? What do we need to do and be doing so that we can be filled up to all the fullness of God? I know how to fill up my car with gas. I know how to fill up my stomach with food. I even know how to fill up my brain with entertainment. However, how can I be filled up to all the fullness of God???
First, let’s understand what this phrase is actually telling us. It is not telling us to do something. We are not the ones who are supposed to be doing this action of filling us up. A better translation of the Greek would be;
“…that you may be being filled up to all the fullness of God.”
We are not being told to fill ourselves up, which is exactly what many Christians are trying to do. We are good at filling up our schedule with so many activities as well as responsibilities and entertainment that we soon are burning the proverbial candle at both ends. Life becomes exhausting and we tend to cut out the very thing that we most desperately need – quality time with God.
Instead, we are told to be allowing God to fill us up. He is the only one who can do this kind of filling. And it is in this process of God filling us up to all the fullness of God where we find true intimacy.
False intimacy with sex does provide a very powerful and pleasurable experience. We fill our minds with images, videos, and fantasies and for a time feel great. Our testosterone kicks in and our dopamine starts to flow, and it fills our lonely life in a most amazing way. However, if there is one thing I have learned from my own journey it is that this temporary false intimacy always takes more than it gives.
False sexual intimacy erodes the soul. It is cancer that eats away at our most cherished relationships with a spouse, our children, our friends and leaves us with self-loathing and condemnation. It empties us and leaves us with little to give to those around us who need our love and support. It weakens us and we begin to feel we have nothing to offer anyone because we have become a phony wearing a mask that all is ok when in reality it is not.
Instead of there being an overflow from a deepening intimacy with God out of which we can then give to others…our storehouse is empty. We make excuses and tell lies to cover up the truth that we are wallowing in sexual sin. We have no fullness coming from God because we have been feeding our flesh with lust that only leaves us wanting more. The end is utter selfishness and instead of allowing God to fill us up we have allowed our lusts to finish us off.
My friends, there is such a better life that God has for you. He wants to fill us up to all the fullness of God. There are two taps out of which you can choose to drink every day. One is the tap of Lust and the other is the tap of Love. Out of lust comes sweet water laced with acid. It tastes good but eats away at your soul. Out of Love comes Living Water able to quench our thirsts and makes us whole.
Being filled with the Spirit is drinking from the tap of Love. Surrendering our bodies to Him as a living sacrifice on a daily basis is where it all begins. Not giving ourselves over to the deadly delights of this world but being transformed by the renewing of our minds is a must. Being filled with the Holy Spirit throughout the day is the only way to walk in the Spirit and not fulfilling the desires of the flesh.
And with time and consistently walking in the Spirit His fruit begins to appear in our thoughts, words, and actions. We will find ourselves being rooted and grounded in love. And this is not supposed to be something we are accomplishing on our own. It is to be being experienced within a community of saints.
This will only happen when you end your isolation and join in with a team of others who are helping one another. This is happening in our Online Support Teams and I would strongly encourage you to contact me and you can sit in as my guest and see the body of Christ in action, helping one another to walk out of their addiction and into the fullness of God.