6 Bad Reasons to Remain Isolated ~ blog
Tonight at 9:00 pm I am going to have a 180 LIVE Webinar about why joining an Online Support Team is the critical next step for you to take. I know it. You know it. So how about we cut through all the BS and run them across the 180 Shooting Gallery, and I will shoot each one full of holes.
# 1 – I don’t want anyone to know I struggle with porn and sexual sin. Do you really think nobody suspects that you struggle with porn and masturbation? The fact of the matter is 100% of all people, men and women, struggle to some degree with sexual temptation. I am not asking you to stand up at the next church potluck, if we can ever have them again, and announce;
“Hey everybody I have become addicted to porn and masturbation multiple times a day…
does anyone want to start a small group???”
Better be prepared to do the Heimlich Maneuver to clear the hunk of chicken out of Aunt Bessie’s throat. Men will drop their heads and women faint. How dare anyone mention the P word and the M word in church.
The room is full of others who could say the same thing, but one should never bring up the elephant that is already in the room. Not everyone needs to know but keeping it a secret means you are walking in darkness instead of in the light where you can have fellowship with a small group of other believers who are helping one another.
# 2 – I don’t know anyone I can trust and to whom I can tell the truth. Part of that fear is based on the people you might tell then they might tell others who are part of your church or fellowship of believers and eventually your spouse might find out.
Our Online Support Teams are made up of 140+ men who never knew anyone else in the group. You would be meeting with complete strangers all of whom are brothers in Christ and none of whom would know or tell anyone you know. We sign a confidentiality policy that nothing said in the OST can be shared outside of the OST.
# 3 – Porn has become my Idol of choice and I do not want to give it up. Really??? This idol that has taken over your life, your thoughts and actions and fills you with shame and self-loathing you do not want to get rid of it? You are focusing on the pleasure it gives you. You can spend hours of your time consuming one porn image or video after another. But where does it leave you?
You give it your time and money and energy, burning sexual images into your brain and do not realize how much this is killing the truly important things in your life like your family and friends. Sexual sin is the gift that keeps on taking and will suck the life out of you leaving you alone, yet always wanting more no matter how much you have lost.
# 4 – Since I am the only one with this problem nobody will understand my struggle. Are you kidding me??? First, at least 50% of every man you know struggles with this same crap. Everyone struggles to some degree of another. Think Covid-19 is a Pandemic? It is nothing compared to Pornvid-2020.
A friend of mine asked his son who just graduated from a major Christian University and he asked his son how many guys in this Christian University struggles with porn. His son’s answer was; “EVERYONE!”
Trust me … with porn becoming omnipresent via smartphones and kids getting their hands on the key to a universe of porn with little supervision this addiction is going to explode in the next 10 years. If you have kids and you are still doing porn guess who is going to follow in their father’s footsteps?
# 5 – If I tell my spouse (friends) what I have done it will hurt them and damage our marriage (friendship). OMG…WTH…this is one of the stupidest excuses ever. You are already hurting your marriage and friendships by having a secret life and there is an ever-thickening wall between you and the rest of the world. You are living in darkness and your relationships are growing shallower with every fall you have.
You are already hurting everyone around you. The only way to begin to heal your relationships is to begin to get the help you need so that you are not living a lie. Others sense that something is not quite right, but they do not want to ask because you will get upset and make up some lie to keep your secret hidden. Then on and on you drift apart until you are strangers sharing the same house without any true intimate connection.
# 6 – These programs are expensive, and I cannot afford it. Well, I will admit that some recovery programs are expensive. So, I have figured out a way to fix that for anyone. Want to know the price for my 180 Recovery Program Videos which is 25 videos and a workbook? How about this to take away this excuse;
You pay whatever you can honestly afford.
That’s right … you name your price. If you are in serious financial trouble…ok can you handle it being FREE???
But what about the monthly fee to being in an Online Support Team? Same deal … whatever you can honestly afford. I have people paying nothing all the way up to the price of $40/month.
I am out to be the Walmart or Costco of Sex Addiction Recovery Programs.
So, tonight at 9:00 pm Eastern Standard Time there will be a Zoom meeting open to everyone.
We will start at 9:00 pm Eastern Standard Time in the USA,
that’s New York Time.
Please join me to hear more and I hope to see you there.
Here is the Zoom Link, which you can test out any time before the meeting to make sure you are familiar with using Zoom. Also, here are the phone numbers you can use to just call in with your phone.
+1 646 876 9923 US – East Coast
+1 669 900 6833 US – West Coast