The older I get the faster I want things to be done. I like coffee but I am not fanatical about it. I do grind my own beans, use a French press that I actually bought in France, and like my coffee to stay warm while I am drinking it. At first, it was fun learning how to do everything to try and get the best freshest cup of coffee without leaving the house.
However, now…I want my coffee and I want my coffee fast. The faster the better as long as it is at least gas-station good. So, I broke down and asked my wife to get some instant coffee for me. I could care less if it is a perfect cup of coffee, I just want it to be done as quickly as possible.
How many times have you fallen into what I call the Zap Trap? The Zap Trap is that thinking that hopes that if I am sincere enough, pray long and hard enough, and even have others pray over me that God will instantly heal me from my desires for sexual sin. We want God’s healing and we want it as fast as possible … instantly would be preferable.
Have you asked for that? Have you made promises to God that you will never do it again as a way of trying to bargain with Him? Have you done OK for a short period of time but eventually the desires kick in and you find yourself falling into temptation once again? Have you ever shouted out;
God, why won’t you heal me?
I want to show you the big picture of God’s healing plan for us all. Before any of us became Christian believers, the Bible says we were dead in our sins. We looked at that passage in Ephesians 2:1-3 yesterday. Obviously, we were not physically dead, but we were spiritually dead and had no connection with God, floundering around without God in our lives.
Then, by the grace and mercy of God, we became born again. Born physically one day and then born again spiritually the day we trusted in Christ as our Savior. So, one way to look at God giving us the healing we need is to realize that we have already been healed from being spiritually dead in our sins to become born again and alive in Christ. We became “new creations” having the complete forgiveness of all our sins and then having the Spirit of God enter into our physical body to seal us as a guarantee of our inheritance in heaven.
That was instant work done by God. Peter says it this way in 1 Peter 1:3;
“According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead…”
God did not just heal us from our being dead in sin, but He has given us a new life in Christ, and we get the Holy Spirit added in as God living within us. Now I have to say that was a huge step of healing, wouldn’t you? Once dead in sin and now alive in Christ…big act of healing already done by God.
Now, from the moment we were born again, becoming alive in Christ, and sealed with the Spirit until the moment we die this is to be our time of experiencing transformation. God is at work in us to make us more holy. Why do you think He is doing that? Is it because He does not want us to experience real joy and have fun? No, it is because He knows that sin destroys us, and walking in the Spirit brings transformation.
That is what God wants for all of us. This is clear in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5;
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God…”
So, let me ask you; “Do you want to stop falling into sexual sin because you are sick and tired of living a double life and realize that this sin has you in its grasp and does not want to let you go or because you want to experience purity?”
Healing from this sexual addiction is going to happen. The real news is that we will have to struggle with this sin and many others for the remaining years of our lives. We still have a sinful nature or flesh living inside of us, we still live in a fallen world with porn being omnipresent, free, and available anytime and anywhere, and we are in a battle with demonic forces.
So, you can cry out for God to heal you and deliver you from sexual addiction all you want but those forces working against us still remain, and sooner or later we have to do the things He tells us we need to be doing if we are going to see more healing and transformation taking place in our lives.
Yesterday started the 16th year of my own recovery from my sexual brokenness. I do believe that God has healed me of my sexual addiction. However, because I am not in heaven yet and still have enemies, I must do the work God has told me to do on a daily basis if I am going to experience more healing and more spiritual power from the Spirit.
If I do not do the work I need to do on a daily basis I can be drawn back into sexual sin. I have not been given this freedom so that I can just goof off and ignore my spiritual disciplines. Instead…I want more. More healing. More freedom and a deepening relationship with Jesus as I live out each day walking in the Spirit and not in my flesh.
Lastly, this freedom has not been magically given to me. It comes after years of living in community with other men and finding in that community not only the help I need but the opportunity to give help to others as well.
So, you may “Got Milk” but do you “Got Community” where you can be honest, receive the biblical teaching on finding freedom, have weekly accountability, and daily support? Remember…
A Lone Sheep is a Dead Sheep
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