Thou Shall Not Kill…with this One Exception ~ blog
Everyone who becomes addicted to porn and sex knows one thing for certain. We can desire to stop committing sexual sin with every fiber in our being. We can be faced with the terrible consequences of exposure to family and friends, destroying one’s marriage, losing our jobs, and perhaps ever being arrested because our insatiable lusts have led us to do something which is illegal.
So, why do we not take the drastic step that we are told in the Bible relative to the root cause of our sexual brokenness? Paul has made it very clear in Romans 7 where the problem lies.
“For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not. For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want.”
Is that not also true for all of us? We are new creations in Christ. We have been sealed by the Spirit who will remain in us forever. We have been adopted by God as His children. However, there still remains in us something we were born with. It is called our “flesh.” And this flesh is nasty, evil, and has the power to cause us to sin.
However, when we became born again and made into a new creation where old things have passed away and behold new things have come…there is still one problem. Our flesh remains in us and will do so until we die. I wish it were not true, but it is, and we all know it.
So, in Romans 8 Paul starts talking about the solution to our flesh and that solution is the very Holy Spirit who has been placed inside of our bodies. So, inside of us, there is the new me, a new creation in Christ, plus the Holy Spirit, as promised by Jesus, and this thing called our flesh.
You cannot have it removed like your tonsils or appendix. You cannot make it more holy because it is rotten to the core…by its very nature, it is sinful. You cannot remove it, convert it, burn it up in a fire or neutralize it with a steroid shot or medications.
There is only one biblical solution in dealing with our flesh. And that solution is part of the obligation we have before God. This is not a “Give it a shot and see how you do!” deal where you shoot it in the dead and it dies. It has no head. It is not a physical being. It is not a demon. It is something in our nature that delights in doing sinful, rebellious, and selfish things.
However, make no mistake about it…if we are going to stop allowing our flesh to lead us back to sinful behaviors, even addictions, then we have an obligation to do this one thing;
“So then, brethren, we are under obligation, not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh—for if you are living according to the flesh, you must die; but if by the Spirit you are putting to death the deeds of the body, you will live.”
Read that verse over a few times to make sure you know what it is saying. If as born-again believers who have the Holy Spirit of God dwelling in our bodies and we are choosing to live according to what our flesh wants… “you must die.”
Remember the wages of sin are death. This is not speaking of eternal death in hell or losing your salvation. However, if we continue in sin it will bring punishment and pain into our lives. The sin loves to destroy whatever is good in our life. Sin produces death in that it kills something in you or something about you. It is not the death of our salvation which is always eternally secure. But it can kill your health, marriage, family, and anything you hold precious.
It is never satisfied and continuing in it may lead to your physical death.
So, please for your own sake understand that this is a life or death situation. Either you work at putting to death the deeds of the flesh so that you will live or if you persist in sin and keep living according to your flesh, death will be knocking at your door.
So, what is the solution to this life or death reality?
We all have to be putting to death the deeds of the body.
How do we do that? How do I kill something that I cannot see or touch? Notice in the text that we are to be putting to death the deeds of the body
BY MEANS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT!
It is to the Spirit that we must turn in times of temptation asking Him to put to death the deeds of our flesh. He will not put our flesh to death because that will die once we die. However, He can and will put to death the deeds of the flesh. He can kill, the deeds, ideas, and desires of our flesh.
So, here is where the real problem relative to our sexual brokenness and porn addiction. We are not asking the Spirit to put to death the deeds of our body. When we should be starving our flesh by not feeding it with sexual images, movies, and fantasies, we like to play around with thoughts and deeds of sexual sin.
We are warned in Scripture to not allow even the slightest hint of sexual sin in our minds. We are told to take every thought captive, to flee youthful lusts, and to be asking the Spirit to put to death the deeds of the body.
This means we need to get serious about our own recovery. I cannot recover for you and you cannot recover for me. However, we can both help one another in the need for being consistently alert and supportive with temptation arrives.
You have an obligation to both God and yourself to be putting to death, by means of the Spirit, anything, and everything that causes us sexual temptation.