What is The Most Important Thing in Your Life? blog
Ok, so let’s imagine you live in California, Oregon, or Washington in a home you have built out in the forest so that you can experience the beauty and serenity of that location. No traffic. No protests. No parking problems or noise pollution. Oh, the peace and quiet of it all.
When suddenly you are startled to hear a vehicle coming down your street warning you to evacuate because in about 30 minutes the flames of the forest fire will soon be engulfing everything you have turning all your belongings into ashes and ruin. You have only minutes to escape with your life.
What you choose at that moment would indicate what is most important to you. And I would hope every one of us would choose to first collect our loved ones. Everything else is just stuff and stuff can be replaced. Now some things seem irreplaceable, but nothing is more important than the lives of your family…or that is how it should be.
So, what would you say is the most important thing in your life? I hope your answer would be those members of your family and your friends. Sure, we can fill our lives with material things. We can accomplish our goals and hope to attain some measure of success in our lives. However, as some people say; “It is lonely at the top.” Because when your priorities become your own success and not the relationships you have, we sacrifice fellowship for finances or fame.
In 1 John chapter one, the Apostle John uses this word “fellowship” four times in five verses. This is significant because this word is only used 12 times in the entire Bible and 25% of those are in these 5 verses. Fellowship is when you have something in common with others. We have fellowship with God through Jesus Christ. We share Him as our Savior and that makes us members of His family.
It means being connected to or having community with others. Here is what John writes;
“…what we have seen and heard we proclaim to you also, so that you too may have fellowship with us; and indeed, our fellowship is with the Father, and with His Son Jesus Christ. These things we write, so that our joy may be made complete.
This is the message we have heard from Him and announce to you, that God is Light, and in Him there is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth; but if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another…”
Clearly, John is describing two types of fellowship. One is vertical with God and the other is horizontal with other believers. Since every born-again Christian has fellowship with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ, an extremely important part of our fellowship with God is to also have fellowship with one another.
Yet, this is where the breakdown happens. We live in a world filled with sin and darkness and nowhere is that more realized than in the world of porn and sexual sin. One can claim that they have fellowship with God but if they are walking in darkness John says they are lying. We are lying because we are not “practicing the truth.”
So then, is that person not saved? If one becomes addicted to porn is that not an indication that they are not born-again and do not have fellowship with God? Please notice that John says the word “we” and not “you.” He is including himself in this discussion. It is not a matter of if you are saved and in God’s family. It is a matter of the choices we make on a daily basis which determines if we are walking in darkness or light.
Rest assured believers struggle with sin and when it becomes addictive it becomes extremely difficult to stop walking in the darkness. However, God has given to us freedom of choice. We choose for ourselves whether we are going to walk in light or darkness. Sure, it would be great if when we are being tempted God would have us on a leash, so we have to stay in the light. However, that is not the way God has set things up.
When we walk in darkness, we are not going to be practicing the truth. We are returning to our vomit for one more meal thinking it will be good and solve the issues we are facing…but alas it never does.
So, what is there to keep us from walking back to the darkness when we need to be staying in the light? Is there some kind of barrier we can set up? I am so glad you asked that because there is a barrier between the light and the darkness, and that barrier is found not in the fellowship we have with God…but the fellowship we should be having with one another.
The problem is it is easy today to not have fellowship with one another. Most men who struggle with sexual sin even to the point of addiction are filled with shame and fear and so they stay in the darkness. There is a barrier in our lives, but it is not between light and darkness. It is between us and the other people in our lives. It is between a husband and his wife and children. It is found walling us in from any true connection with other men.
So, we find we are on a leash, but that leash is in the darkness keeping us from being in the light. Sure, we can play the role and look like a good Christian, but we know we are not practicing the truth because we are not telling the truth.
This is why there is such strong fellowship between the men who are in the Online Support Teams. It is scary at first because they have not done this very much. However, when they sit in a see these men walking in the light with one another and helping one another these Teams may be the only place in the world they can do this with other men and they grow to love that fellowship.
I know you must be sick of hearing me say this…but there is room for you. These teams are experiencing men walking in the light together getting the accountability they need and the daily support we all need.