Why does an alcoholic continue to drink when it is obviously destroying their lives?
Why does a drug user continue to use even though their health, ability to work and friendships are on in falling apart?
Why do we continue to flirt with sexual temptation by dancing on the edge of the cliff and then act surprised when we have another fall and find ourselves in another shit storm?
When you have tried to stop acting out sexually, about a million times, and have not been successful maybe it is time to realize the obvious. As my friends down South would say …
Ya’ll In Witdra’ll
Which when translated into Northern speak means “You are all in Withdrawal.” You know it’s hot down South and things move more slowly, and it takes too much effort to speak the 7 syllables, so they shorten it to 4.
When we continuously use any kind of stimulants on a regular basis our bodies begin to expect that being high is normal. It likes the high and we like the high so gradually over a time, high becomes the normal. The body adapts and begins to expect, even demand that we use the stimulants, or it is going to let us know it is not happy.
Did someone say coffee and cigarettes???
This is not just some spiritual battle that you are in against the devil. I mean, there is that as well but we are talking about what happens in your brain and body when you cut off the supply of what it has become accustomed to. This effort of trying to go back to normal shocks the body and it responds with all kinds of reactions …
* Irritability * Anxiety * Depression * Sleeplessness * Agitation
* Loss of interest in life * Vomiting * Sweating * Chills * Heart palpitations
* Tremors and shaking * Constipation * Hyperactivity * Feeling raw
* Indigestion * Itchy skin * Anger * Inability to think straight * Feeling numb
* Fatigue * Bad dreams * Emotional instability * Aches and pains
* Inability to concentrate * Hypersensitivity * Boredom * Despair
* Grief * Loss of energy * Sadness * Physical and emotional discomfort
* Insecurity
In our minds, we are telling ourselves we need to stop using sex because we could lose our wife, family, and marriage. We could lose our job. We could lose everything so it makes absolute sense for us to stop … but the change causes our bodies to go into some level of shock.
Realize this … Withdrawal Does Not Last Forever!
It takes time for the body to adjust to the new normal and the battle can be intense. That is why you need a team around you to help you make it. Do not try to do it alone. I did for 8+ years and only became more addicted. You have already tried many times and failed repeatedly. Everybody needs that daily encouragement and support. Set up your team and begin the journey to freedom. You cannot go it alone.
Ya’ll Needs Some Help!
That is why we have started Online Support Teams. Currently we have groups that meet online once a week using Zoom for our face to face meetings, online. For $40/month or just $10/week you can have a small group to help you weekly as well as staying in touch everyday through GroupMe. Email me – doyel@me.com if ya’ll are interested. I am thinking of starting a new one on Tuesday nights.